5 Life Stressors We Don’t Talk About

The daily stressors that we deal with range from balancing home life, traffic, unrealistic job/career demands, childcare, or impossible commitments and schedules. We think we have the daily stressors handled, then life throws us a spontaneous event or situation that takes precedence in our day. Restorative Health & Healing has become a premier destination for those seeking a process to lower their stress.

“You don’t know what people are really like until they’re under a lot of stress.” Tim Allen

We cherish the responsibilities we have. We look forward to the challenges with an attitude that this day will be amazing. However, there is always the chance that something will happen that we have no control over. And it’s those fears that keep us up at night. We hold onto a few beliefs that we typically keep to ourselves.

1. We don’t want to expose our vulnerability
Maintaining the illusion that we are up to mastering any situation, while underneath we hope that no one sees our vulnerability is a huge stressor. No matter our role at home, in the community, or at work, we feel that it’s our responsibility or duty to be of service. When we look around, we feel that all eyes are on us to overcome every challenge. There is no time off and our mind never rests.

2. We think we are supposed to have the answers for every situation in our life
We have the attitude that it’s up to us, but sometimes that’s not enough. Somewhere deep down we love the challenge. However, we need to remain open to accept there’s a unique way of looking at and doing everything and learning to take a few deep breaths before re-engaging. Every situation brings with it a unique set of characteristics. It’s an illusion if we are relying on the old ways to somehow work that magic again.

3. Fear of failure is unspoken but weighs heavily on every decision made
Failure is never an option. There is no such thing as “we will try.” Success is what makes us that go-to person no matter what. The weight of failure is crushing, a character destroyer, and a stealer of self-confidence. There are hundreds of scenarios dancing in our head, and we start playing that game where we question every thought and decision.

4. We live with the risk that we could be wrong, ridiculed, or even injured
There is always a chance we could be misunderstood, not appreciated, or actually get hurt. Most situations there’s only a few people around, and they forget about what happened quickly. We hold onto the scenario replaying the decisions we made over and over in our mind causing us even more stress.

5. We have experiences that are difficult to share
We have difficulty understanding that some things will happen outside of our control. Mental preparation doesn’t always work to lower our stress level or accept that this is normal. It just comes with living life. It’s a constant friction of a heavy burden that never gets lighter. Most outcomes have nothing to do with us.

“These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.” Najwa Zebian

Some of the professions that are at high-risk of acquiring extreme stress levels in their lives are military personnel, law enforcement, firefighters, paramedics, medical personnel, trauma healthcare professionals, aid/disaster relief workers, humanitarian workers, peacekeepers, social workers, parents, and care givers.