Perceptions of Reality


All of us would like to believe that people who know us are willing to support us . . . sadly, this just isn’t so. Around 60% of the people we know aren’t willing to help or support us.

Far too much of our time and energy is wasted on getting people to like us. We do not need to be liked by everyone to enjoy life. No matter who we are, no matter how impeccable our behavior, and no matter how clear our intent, we will always experience resistance of various degrees.

Our 5 Perceptions of Reality

20% of others will love, adore, or admire us. These people will accept us for who we are, and we will respond appropriately.

20% of others will be an ally or friend. These people have a high degree of tolerance for imperfections and behaviors. We will feel their friendship and loyalty.

20% of others will be neutral or respond without judgment. These people simply don’t care one way or the other about us. They can’t be bothered to interact with us and could care less about anything we say or do.

20% of others will dislike us and see us a threat or competition. These people will criticize, put us down, speak behind our back, spread gossip, and be unpleasant to be around.

20% of others will hate us or might want to cause us physical harm. These people who totally reject us or hate us are adversaries. They may persecute us and become real tyrants to our existence.

When we try to please everyone, we end up sacrificing who we really are. We have a choice to stop worrying about pleasing others and start setting boundaries, identifying our priorities, and creating a life that is meaningful to us.